For awhile now, I have dreamed of the day that I can hold a child of my own in my arms. Soon that will happen and I am ecstatic. I am looking forward to the first cry of our baby, the first eye contact I have with him/her and the first time he/she starts to walk.
More so than all of that, I am looking forward to the real “meat” of fatherhood. The everyday occurrences where my son or daughter will learn from me just in what I do and say. We find out in a week and two days whether the baby is a boy or a girl. There are so many things I am looking forward to when it comes to mentoring my little guy or gal.
There are so many studies that are being done and have been done on how much of an influence fathers have on their children. Fatherlessness is a growing commonality in today’s society and the effects are mind blowing. “Fatherless homes produce more than half of all youth suicides, as well as the majority of kids with behavior disorders.” Also, “kids are twenty times more likely to end up in prison if their dad is not involved in their lives” -Source (Used in The Resolution for Men). The reality is that the impact of fathers on their children is so much more than statistics. The impact a father can have on his children can be GREAT or it can be AWFUL.
It is a HUGE responsibility to be a father. Any guy can have a child but it takes a man to be a father. Too many times today there are kids raising kids and this doesn’t just have to do with the age of the dad. Adolescence is being extended into, in some cases, the thirties of many guys. They have no sense of responsibility and maturity. This is a product of culture raising kids and fathers not calling out the man in their sons. The problem will continue if fathers don’t start to see the impact they are making on their children. Further, we need mature men to mentor these kids who don’t have strong fathers who are involved in their lives.
I say all of this because I see the extreme problem in today’s society with fathers not doing what they are supposed to do. I have the knowledge of what not to do as a father but it goes beyond just knowing what not to do. I am so, so excited to be able to be a godly teacher, mentor, and example to my kids. In no way am I trying to claim that I have much figured out in this field but I am a student of this subject. I try to learn as much as I can because I know that it is a major responsibility.
God, you are the example we are to look to in what it means to be a loving father. You show us how to love, how to show grace, how to prioritize our lives so that our children will be raised as you want them to be raised. Being a father is such a gift. Please help us to reflect your love to our children and our future children. Help us to forgive others as we teach our children to forgive, help us to lead them to you, and help us to honor you in our relationship with them. Father, you are amazing and it is by your grace that we can strive to be loving fathers to our children.
Proverbs 22:6 “Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.”